DEAR DOORLY DOCTOR: THE BEST LUBES

We’re bringing back the sealed section: Doorly Doctor answers your most candid(a) sex questions.

Q: I’ve heard coconut oil is the best kind of lubricant for sex. Reaaaally? (And what are the differences between different types, anyway?) – Coco Jumbo, Perth

A: Lubricants are an excellent additive to any sexual experience. They’re not just for old people!  But it’s really important to identify what kind of lubricant you are using.

Lubricants can be made from water, oil/petroleum or silicone. Oil-based lubricants (such as coconut oil) and petroleum-based (such as Vaseline) actually increase the likelihood of the condom breaking! So save that coconut oil for your wok/hair/smoothie.

Water-based lubricants are very popular because they’re easily washed off in the shower and are best for using with a condom.

Silicone-based lubricants can also be great because they last longer than other lubricants, but not all are latex-safe (safe for use with condoms) so it’s important to check. Silicone based-lubricant is often recommended for sex toys because it lasts longer, but shouldn’t be used with silicone rubber sex toys, as it can break down the material.

– Dr Jessica Dean (She’s founder of the Nookie Project, a director of beyondblue, and doctor at Monash Health in Melbourne.)